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Takeaways from Meeting Tim Ferriss

Photo Credit: fourhourworkweek.com

Photo Credit: fourhourworkweek.com

On Friday I met the man who changed my whole life. 

It was just like any other Friday; a girlfriend and I had been crafting and sipping chardonnay at one of my favorite spots in Austin, CRAFT. (If you live in Austin and have any sort of creative tendencies or aspirations, I highly recommend you check it out). 

We wrapped up our girl talk, our greeting-card-making, and decided it would be wise to find some dinner. After settling into some brisket & cheddar loaded fries (Austin-living, ya’ll!) I noticed him sitting a few tables away. 

With the hat on, it was hard to be sure, but after a few minutes of stealthy gawking, I was convinced.

It was definitely Tim Ferriss. 

And there was no chance in hell I was going to pass up talking to him. 

If you’re new to The Bold Life Movement, or me in general, I'll keep it brief: In 2013, I read Tim’s first book, The 4 Hour Work Week, and almost instantly my whole life was different. 

“People will choose unhappiness over uncertainty.” 

-Tim Ferriss

I started obsessing about moving abroad and creating a life that more resembled my dreams (living on an island, working a mere 4 hours a week) vs. my nightmares (driving an hour to and from an office, working 14 hour days, dealing with irrational and irate clients). The sad fact was that at the time, my life looked a LOT like the latter. 

As a project manager for a web-agency, my primary client at the time was a global hotel chain, owned by our current president….if that gives you any sort of idea….

But once I had been exposed to the 4 Hour Work Week, things started shifting. I focused my time on things that excited me, I learned about new ideas and connected with people who shared my new-found values.

And within a VERY short time (4 months to be exact) I had quit my job and was on a plane headed for Barcelona, Berlin, and eventually Southeast Asia. 

I spent almost 2 years living all over the world, all because of a book I’d read. 

I dated radically different people than I had been meeting back in my hometown. Entrepreneurs, world travelers, Australians(!) At the time this felt very novel...

I learned about things like e-commerce, and blogging, and travel hacking. All because of a book I’d read.

This foray into Entrepreneurship has since led me to so many experiences, relationships, and professional paths that I never would have known had it not been for Tim’s book. And, equally as important, this new trajectory would not have come to fruition had I not taken immediate, bold action on this new knowledge I had, and the fire burning inside me to make some serious changes. 

So, as you can see, there was no chance I was not going to approach. 

But what the flip do you even say to the person who changed your whole life? How do you show a reasonable level of gratitude while still treating this person like a human being, and not a deity of mythical proportions. 

If you’re me… you serve up a cocktail of self-deprecating humor, appreciation for his work, and a few mutual interests or friends. 

In the end, Tim (who was dining alone, and I am apparently now on a first-name basis with) was more personable than I could have hoped. 

I gave him the 10-second version of how his work had impacted my life, I name-dropped a few common friends to imply proximity, and when it felt right, I told him about exciting things happening for the business (which wouldn’t even exist without the aforementioned book…you see how this works). 

This brazen approach is exactly how I originally connected with the mentors and influencers in 2013 who played very pivotal roles in the up-leveling of my life, and the creation of my business(es).

By ignoring my fear of rejection, and refusing to put anyone on a pedestal, I’ve been able to connect with people who inspire me time and time again. 

Sometimes these exchanges are brief, and seem like they won’t lead to any longterm connection, but later they turn into lucrative podcast episodes.

Some of these attempts have garnered me new friends (and even family), invaluable mentorships, speaking opportunities, and more. 

There’s nothing hard about what I employ, and it’s something you can do in your life and in your business too. Believe me when I say this: nurturing your network is SO important. Equally as important as learning marketing, or copywriting, or getting your website up. 

Here are some ways you can apply what I did in my recent introduction to your life and business: 

Seize opportunities

First and foremost, take advantage of opportunities to connect with people that you find impactful.

I’m not implying you should stalk everyone out and interrupt them during intimate meals. Read the room, use your social acuity. In the case of our friend, Tim Ferriss, he was dining alone, and I was sure to be brief. 

Seize the opportunities without overstaying your welcome. 

Here are some really easy ways to seize potential chances to connect with influencers: 

  • Go to their book signings or workshops
  • Join their livestream Q&As and ask questions
  • Buy their courses (especially if they include 1:1 or group calls)

Remember we’re all just humans

I won’t sit here (cappuccino in-hand) and pretend that I wasn’t nervous to walk up to a world-famous author and attempt to be memorable.

Of course I was.

But what helps me in these situations is to remember that (like everyone else in the world who has found success) he is but a human, and (like a lot of authors) he is an introvert.  Meaning, if he doesn’t wrap me up into a hug and insist that I join him at his table-for-one and share my entire journey since reading the book, I shouldn’t take it personally. 

Remember to treat these individuals like you would want to be treated.

Would you want to hear the impact of your work on someone’s life? Probably.

Would you want each person who approached you on the street or at a conference to launch into a 20-minute monologue about the effects of your work, before asking if he/she can send you their manuscript (a mere 100,000 words) and would you have a looksie? pretty please? Probably not.

Alleviate your anxiety by remembering that we all came into this world the same way, we all sit on the toilet the same way, and we’re all just here doing the best we can.

And increase your odds of connection by remembering the golden rule; treat he or she as you’d want to be treated in the same situation.

Or even better, treat someone as they would want to be treated. 

Play the long game

One thing that I’ve seen pay off time and time again, is a willingness to play the long game. To avoid making the much-desired ask on the first meeting.

If you can position yourself as a supporter, a peer, and most of all, a person of genuine interest and service you’re much more likely to connect deeper over time. 

A great example of this is my favorite Youtuber, and spiritual teacher JP Sears. When I first met JP he was attending a Tony Robbins event, and spent much of his downtime taking selfies with fans. 

Knowing that I would someday like to have him on the podcast, I avoided taking a picture with him and instead kept our encounter brief, light, and assumed the position of 'future friend' over 'die hard fan.' 

After the event ended, I released a JP-Sears-Inspired video about ‘How to Have an Ultra Spiritual Re-entry After Unleashing Your Power Within.’ My intentions with the video were two-fold: 

  1. I just thought it would be really freaken fun! 
  2. I knew if I posted the video and tagged JP in it, there was a chance he’d watch it, and I’d be back on his radar. 

Both proved true, and at the time of writing this, I’ve interviewed JP twice for The Bold Life Movement Podcast. Here is the Episode from Season 1. 

Whether you’re looking for book endorsements, podcast guests, a mentor, etc. this can be applied. Bide your time, be creative, come from service and know that typically the long game pays off. 

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Connections can be the most fruitful investment you make in your business (and in your life). There's an art to being strategic and staying genuine, but it's nothing that even the most introverted person can't master. 

Have a similar story? Tell us about it in the comments below!

 

Signs & Serendipity Led Me to Connect with Lewis Howes

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Last week I flew home from yet another AMAZING Tony Robbins event Los Angeles. I crewed Tony's Unleash the Power Within event, for the 3rd time, and per usual, the serendipitous moments were abundant. 

That being said, I almost didn’t go!

In fact, looking back, I realize that I almost didn’t go to all of the crew events I’ve attended. 

Here’s how this usually goes: I apply to crew, I’m super amped up about getting to contribute, and hang out with like-minded people, and immerse myself in transformation for 5 days.

And then life happens. 

Things come up. Other stuff seems more important… and I inevitably second-guess going, every time. 

Until I’m there, of course. Until I’m back with my people, impacting attendees, and feeling more “me” than most other situations I find myself in on any given day. 

This time was no different. I recently took a week-long trip to San Diego, where I attended Brendon Burchard’s High Performance Academy. With plans to return to San Diego again in June, this L.A. trip just felt like too much. 

I knew that there would be over 500 crew members working this event (the most to ever crew any Tony Event) and that if I didn’t go, it wouldn’t be detrimental. 

On my flight home from San Diego, this decision weighing heavily on my mind, I decided to put pen to paper in hopes of sorting out my thoughts.

I journaled about where I wanted my business to go (realizing that I wanted a heavy focus on leadership in the coming months) and I noted that I needed some sort of sign to show me that I should still take this upcoming trip to L.A.  

Well ask, and you shall receive, my friend. 

When I landed in Austin, I had a message on my phone from one of the crew captains, saying that I’d been “promoted” to Usher Lead at the upcoming event. This meant that I would have a team of about 25 people reporting to me, and I’d be on the radio with the other event leaders. 

It also meant I'd feel used, and gave me the exact purpose I’d been praying for. 

It felt like a clear sign from the Universe that I not only did I need to be there, but this was my chance to put my leadership skills to the test! What came from leading that team was beyond fulfilling. 

On day 3, I felt like I received yet another sign that I was in the right place. "Right place, right time" has never felt more accurate. 

In the early afternoon, on the 3rd day, I happen to be standing with the Crew director, who also happens to be in charge of the VIP guests, when he receives a call on the radio that one of the VIPs has arrive, and is ready to be escorted in. 

“Come with me,” he says, and grabs my hand. 

We walk out to customer service, and immediately I see the familiar 6’4 frame of none other than Lewis Howes. 

“You know Kimberly, right?” the crew director says pointing to me. 

Thank you for that, I think. 

Lewis doesn’t skip a beat. In typical Lewis fashion, he picks me up in one of his giant bear hugs, and I give an internal hat tip to the Universe and think, well played.

The Crew Director and I then escort Lewis into his seat, which happens to be right next to where I’m ushering that day. He doesn’t let the fact that he’s coming in mid-event deter him, and immediately he’s immersed dancing and yelling along with the 8,000 other attendees. Having attended UPW 5 years earlier, he’s familiar with the process and blends in as much as a former pro athlete can. 

Day 3 is transformation day, which means it’s not long until we’re heads down writing out some of our most limiting beliefs. When it comes time to partner up and share what we’ve just written down, Lewis is without a partner. He looks to me, a warm familiar face, and voila!

We become best friends, business partners and live happily ever after with our millions of dollars. 

Okay, not yet. But we do have a chance to connect more than we did at his book signing, or other brief run-ins at WDS. 

I go first, and share with him all of the things that have held me back in my business. All of the beliefs I have that I know aren’t serving me. When it’s his turn, I press him to dig deeper knowing that despite his success and all the work he’s done on himself, there’s always another layer. 

I won’t share what his limiting belief was, but I’ll tell you that my response was this: 

We’re all just humans.

Some have more money, more success, sure. But at the end of the day, we’re all just human. I tell him that I’m not nervous talking to him, or someone like Tony Robbins, because I know that underneath it all, we’re all the same. Some people, have just worked harder at creating better habits and more grit. 

Lewis doesn’t stay long at the event, his presence likely more of a gesture of gratitude to Tony than anything else, but the brief time he was there was symbolic enough for me. 

The interaction with someone whose work I admire, yet someone I ultimately know will be a peer someday, was something I’ve been manifesting for over a year. I put his name on the back of my “future book” as a totem for what is possible. 

Running into him at the event has been motivating enough for me to get really aggressive about finishing the book. It’s reminded me what inspires me, and it’s reminded me what is possible when I commit to my mission. 

I’m grateful for these signs, and for the meaning I’ve given them, if that’s what gets me into action. 

Ask yourself:

What gets you to take action toward your dream?

What signs are showing up in your life to lead you to where you’re meant to go?

What limiting beliefs are you entertaining that may be affecting your ability to see these signs?

 

What Brendon Burchard Taught Me About Getting Paid

Last week I spent 5 glorious days in sunny San Diego. From the moment we landed, everything was top notch. The rental car--a hilarious camaro convertible--provided a sense of adventure and really let us embody the “we're not from here” vibe as we explored a nearby winery and stuffed our face with fish tacos. 

As much as I would have loved to continue the life of the rich and jobless, we were there to work. It was Brendon Burchard’s High Performance Academy that had called us to the west coast. And let me tell you, the man did not disappoint. 

After 4 days of learning from “one of the most successful online trainers in history” (per miss Oprah Winfrey) I realized something...

I want to give Brendon Burchard all my money. 

Not literally of course. What I mean, is that I see something in him, and the way he teaches, that resonates with me so deeply.  So much so, that I’m willing to focus all of my investments on learning from him (and him alone) for the time being. 

Of course I’ll keep reading books from other greats, and listening to my various podcasts of choice, but I’m shutting out much of the noise.

I’m ignoring the myriad of ways I could be doing something, and I’m testing the ways that this particular teachers suggests. 

So how did he do it? How did he get me to fork over more money than even Tony Robbins?? 

Here are just a few of the many reasons...

#1 - He’s a marketing wiz.
Brendon has over 5,000,000 likes on Facebook, and is the king of consistency. Take a look at some more of his impressive numbers. 

Credit: http://brendonburchard.com

Credit: http://brendonburchard.com

His team tests everything that they put out there, and he’s been studying these concepts for over a decade. I’m willing to bet that if I emulated some of his efforts in my own business, it would prove beneficial. 

Here’s an example: In the follow up email after the event, in which his team invited us to join the private facebook group, they didn’t just give us the group link, like most people.

Instead they asked for the email address we used to sign into Facebook so that they could send us an invite and be sure we actually received it. 

Note: this is actually more work for his team. But there’s a reason they did it this way.

By collecting our FACEBOOK email address (verses the one I used to register for his event) he can now target his Facebook ad audiences even better. When he and his team upload their email list to Power Editor for custom audiences, they’ll know that the emails they’re segmenting are the *correct* ones. 

Even if you're not a facebook ad wiz, and this sounds very complicated, just remember this one word: Genius.

#2 - His soft sales-ey style
The quickest way to turn me off of your product or service is a hard sell. It feels gross, I see right through it, and ultimately even if what you’re selling can solve my problem, YOU no longer resonate with me. (Tell me I’m not the only one here…?)

As such, I noted throughout the conference how he pre-framed the things he was going to be selling later on. And then, when the pitch came, he presented his up-sells in a very matter of fact, take it or leave it, kind of way. 

He didn’t press the issue, or encourage anyone to go into debt over it. He didn’t even paint a grim picture of what our life would be like if we didn’t sign up.

Of course there was some scarcity and social proof, but that’s to be expected. The overall experience was enjoyable, and frankly that’s how it should be!
 
Whether his seemingly authentic nature is actually genuine, or masterfully rehearsed, his delivery is obviously something I can learn from.

#3 - His business is built on personal growth. 
My underlying business goals for my clients, begin with self improvement and end with living a better life. How we accomplish those things falls somewhere in between, and varies client to client.

So naturally, I’m drawn to someone whose funnels lure people in through motivational content vs. what you mostly see in this space, which is business advice. 

Understanding how you grow a multi-faceted business, AND stay authentic to your "why" appeals to me. Hard.

#4 - I want to put on my blinders and get out of the land of learning. 
I’m human, and just like you I suffer from shiny object syndrome, and the desire to learn it all before I implement. But this comes at a cost.

Trying to learn what EVERYONE is doing, or emulate MULTIPLE mentors can be expensive and time consuming. 

To mitigate this, I’m trimming the fat, unsubscribing from countless lists, and signing on with Brendon’s team to grow my business in 2017. 

I’m thrilled to be learning from one person and focusing my remaining efforts on serving my clients and differentiating my brand even further. 

It's refreshing to feel like I've found the mentor I've been looking for over the recent months. If you're still looking for that person, or if you're curious whether or not it's me. Then let's jump on the phone to chat! 

At the very least we can clarify what sort of support you need and get you on your way to finding it...

When Determination Finally Pays Off

snowboarding-idaho

The conditions could not have been more perfect for me to succeed. I was in Coeur d’Alene Idaho visiting with friends for our self-made #winterfest. The weekend was designed to breed fun, and to squash any limiting beliefs about what our bodies are capable of. Hence the plank challenge and the polar plunge in Lake Coeur d’Alene (sorry mom!) But more on those later...

On our final day in Idaho we returned to Lookout Pass, ready to shred. Lift tickets were SO cheap, it didn't make sense not to go for round 2. Conditions were dreamy; fresh powder fell from the sky, and I realized I had the run ALL to myself. Note to self: small town slopes over big time pricey Vail any day. Less money, less people, less barrier to boarding.

My friend had given me some really solid pointers. Something about squishing a grape in my boot, lifting my tail up, etc… 

I was ready. 

I’d been training for this. And by training, I mean I’d been snowboarding maybe 12 times in my life (sometimes sober, sometimes armed with liquid courage), I’d purchased all the necessary equipment 5 years ago, and traveled around the country perfecting my falling leaf. 

But I was done being an amateur. I was done telling my friends to go on without me. Done with the burning in my thighs that comes from spending the whole day on heel-side.

And truthfully, I think the Universe was over me saying “shred” without actually shredding. 

So there I am, coaching myself down the slope. “Lean into it. Lift your tail. Nice and easy. You got this. Heeeeeelllll. Tooooooeeeeee. Nicccce and easssyyyy. You got this….Oh my god you really got this….Eeeeeeeeee! Oh my god I’m doing it! This is so FUNNNN!!!” 

And then, like a movie, I’m no longer in my body. I’m above my body, watching myself carve down the mountain. Noticing again how there is no one else around me on the slope. Noticing how bad-ass I look. Feeling grateful that I have the ability to go snowboarding on a day when most of the world is working. 

I’m going really fast now. I even let out a WOOHOOOOO!! Like I’ve heard other boarders do as they flew by me and sprayed me with snow, knocking me out of my falling leaf rhythm. Note to self: When I’m a professional snowboarder--or at least someone who doesn’t fall every 40 feet--don’t be a dick to the people who are just starting out. 

I reach the bottom, finishing with a sickkkk toe-side as I approach the lift, and unbuckle my binding without even sitting down or coming to a full stop.*

I ask the lift attendant (who doesn’t even bother to check my pass because I’m LITERALLY the only person in sight) how much time I have until the lift closes. 

This run is on the backside of the mountain. The Montana side! (I make a mental note to cross another state off my scratch-off map of the U.S.) He tells me that this lift will close in 30 minutes, but I have an hour until the last lift of the day. 

Shit.

I’ve FINALLY learned to snowboard and I only have an hour left to do it! 

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As I ride the lift up for my final run down my new favorite slope, tears come to my eyes. Partly because I have resolved to spend the day without my goggles because I really need to get contacts, and can’t actually see the slopes with my goggles on; the wind and sleet now blowing freely into my exposed eyes. And partly, from pure unabashed joy. 

The trees surrounding the lift are pure magic. My newfound comfort on my board is pure magic. 

There have been so many times I’ve wondered if I should just switch back to skiing, because frankly, it’s easier. 

But I never did! You can’t get good at something doing it once or twice, every three years. Your body and mind aren’t able to build the necessary muscle memory without consistent repetition. 

I’m so glad I didn’t give up. I’m so glad I say yes at every chance I get to “shred.”

The profundity of realizing that determination really can pay off is still dawning on me. 

It supposedly takes 10,000 hours to achieve mastery. If you’re only willing to give 10, then you’ll reap the relative reward of that effort. 

No matter what your passion or hobby is, if it’s important to you, make it a priority. Spend money on it, spend time on it. Seek out favorable circumstances for success. 

The final two runs of the day were epic. I migrated from the green circles in Montana, back to the Idaho side and finished out the day on a blue square aptly named “Bonanza."

Reunited with my friends, I shred like I’ve never shred before. “It’s like night and day. You’re a completely different person!” my friend Nick told me. 

He wasn’t wrong. 

I felt renewed. I felt changed. The realization of what is possible when you commit to something, and go after it with a belief that you CAN ACTUALLY DO IT do it left me high. 

I hope you find the same highs in your life. Find things that make you feel alive. Practice them, seek help to improve, repeat. 

You got this, ‘bruh.

Still 'riding the stoke',
Kim

*This may have been embellished for effect. 

What would you do if money wasn't an issue?

I was catching up with a friend recently via WhatsApp, when he started sending me pictures of all this delicious food. Lamb Chops... Bay Leaf Panna Cotta... a WHOLE PIG. 

Immediately I started salivating.

Once I had wiped the drool from my chin (like a ladyyyy) I managed to ask him, "WTF where is that??" (like a ladyyyy).

I learned that he had enrolled in culinary school in San Francisco. 

…just because.

We’re talking fancy, white hat, multiple hours a day, every day, LEGIT culinary school. And not because he has any desire to be a chef.

Nope, he enrolled in the six month program, simply because he wanted to improve his knife skills, make the perfect soufflé, and learn to butcher a pig.  Simply because he’s always been one for mastery. Ever since we met, he’s been known to commit, and really invest in becoming an expert at the things he enjoys. 

Five years ago, when he discovered the paleo diet--and it changed his life--he decided to write Paleo cookbooks and sold them on Amazon (and made a decent penny doing so). 

He really goes all in, in a way that I’ve always envied and admired. 

So where am I going with this?

Well sure, my friend is fortunate enough to drop $30K on a 6 month culinary program in San Francisco. But not just because he has the funds to do so; it’s because he’s created a life that gives him the funds to do so.

Do you see the difference? 

He wasn’t born with $30K just lying around. In fact, when I met him in 2013, his business (which can apparently can run on autopilot now, or with very little effort on his part) didn’t even exist. He built it with hustle and hard work. 

And now, he’s reaping the benefits. Now he’s doing things that illustrate money is not an issue. 

If you’re thinking, Nice for him, Kim. But we don’t all have such luxuries. 

Well that’s just not true. Hear me out...

Instead of thinking, “Sure if I had a 7 figure business, I’d go to cooking school too!" (or buy a boat, or whatever your jam is). Instead of thinking, "if I had the money, then…." or "when I have the money…"

Instead of doing it the way you’ve always done it… what if you decided NOW what your dream experiences are, or your ideal life looks like, and then go after the money to make it happen. 

That’s right, work backwards.

It’s hard to call in an extra $30K if you have no where for it to go. 

The year is still young. There’s plenty of time to cross some bucket list items off. 

What is one really exciting thing that you’d do this year, if money wasn’t an issue? (Bonus points if you email me and tell me!)

For me, it’s attending a writing workshop held annually in Paris. 

I know it costs $6000 + room and board + flight. I also know that there are a handful of other trips I already have planned for this year, so that’s an additional ~$9000 that I need to conjure up. 

How much more effective is it to say “What I want costs $9000, here are 10 ways I could potentially earn that money before July…” vs. “I’d love to do a writing workshop in Paris, but it’s too expensive. Someday when I have more money."

One inspires action, the other does not. 

See what I mean?

Now it's your turn. Take 5 minutes and brainstorm some things you would just LOVE to do if money wasn’t an issue. 

Pick one and figure out how much it would cost to do it.

Pro-tip: Do you know anyone who has already done it? Is there anyone who could connect you for cheaper with this bucket list experience? Are scholarships available? Does it ever go on sale? Be resourceful!

Adult like your dreams depend on it! Because they sort of do.

Whether it’s a 6 month sabbatical to learn the difference between fricassee and flambé,  or a balloon ride over New Mexico, or a sailing trip across the Atlantic, chances are someone else has already done it. Which is only proof that it’s possible. 

Don’t let money be the barrier between you and the life you want. Become clear on what you want to do with your short time on earth, and create a plan to go get it.

Like many things in life, the Universe will have a hard time giving you what you want if you don’t ask for it.  

You Really Can Live on a Tropical Island
(If you want to)

Koh Nang Yuan - Off the coast of Koh Tao // 2013

Koh Nang Yuan - Off the coast of Koh Tao // 2013

I was minding my own business, just drinking my half-caff capp and tippy-typing away on my computer. I truly didn’t mean to eavesdrop. But this cafe was hipster-sized-small, and when he said “Thailand” my ears perked up. 

“I’m going to go live on Koh Tao for a few months.” 

And that’s when I couldn’t resist...

“I LIVED ON KOH TAO!” 

He wasn’t even talking to me, but immediately I had commandeered the conversation, and we were off. This stranger and I spent the next 15 minutes talking about how he had just been in Thailand, spending his vacation days diving off the coast of Koh Tao, and how he was now leaving his life in Austin to go spend 3 months getting his dive master certification. 

It was a decision he had made in an instant, one night on the island. And as is often the case, when he returned home to sort out the logistics, everything just fell into place. A friend of his gratefully accepted the offer to sublet his apartment and care for his cat while he was gone. He put his job on pause, and purchased his ticket back to the land of smiles. 

Hearing his story reminded me so much of my own. Four years ago, I decided in one fateful moment that I’d be moving overseas within 6 months, and immediately the wheels were set in motion. I did what any person with a goal does, I pursued information, and relationships that would expedite this process, but of course, so much of what made my inevitable voyage possible was simply magic offered up by the Universe. 

Coincidences and serendipitous connections abound. None of which I could have predicted, but all equally integral to my achieving the goal of moving overseas and saying good bye to corporate life.

Just like my new diver friend, the Universe recognized that I was serious, and that I was certain about the outcome, and it supported me in making it a reality. 

I remember boarding the plane for South East Asia just three short months later thinking, Oh my gosh, I actually did it. 

And then, on one clear balmy night, a mere 3 months after that, I stood on the EXACT beach in Thailand that I’d stared at, as my desktop background photo for weeks leading up to my departure. It hit me how precise my manifestation had been, and I looked out at the lapping waves and just cried from joy. 

Koh Tao Sunset // 2013

Koh Tao Sunset // 2013

Life really can be exactly what you want it to be if you decide with certainty and have faith.

And it’s these two things-certainty and faith-that will keep you going when it feels difficult, or when people tell you your dream is impossible, or unrealistic. 

Whether you want to pause your “real" life and live on an island in South East Asia for a few months, or you want to pursue a different career path, or become a published author...whatever your goal is, it’s completely doable. 

The key to having success in these situations is to trust your gut and then go all in. Know when something is a fleeting desire, and when it’s a must. Discerning between the “I wish”s and the “I will”s. 

A friend recently asked me, “Were you ever scared, or did you doubt yourself before moving abroad?" 

I told her, "not once."

I’m not saying that you should only pursue things that don’t scare you. I’m saying that sometimes, when you do scary things, if it’s really truly right for you,  you actually perceive fear as excitement. And you’re more successful because you don’t stress about “the how”. You trust that it will all work out, because you have a knowing within that is sufficient. External validation simply becomes irrelevant.  

Follow the dreams that are grounded in a sense of peace. Trust that you can create your life to be whatever you want, and that the only validation you need for your ideas comes from within. If you know something is meant for you, then it is. 

Choosing an alternative lifestyle, and living out of a suitcase was not always easy. Pursuing entrepreneurship is ANYTHING but easy. But this path that I’ve trusted and known is right for me has brought me to so many amazing places, and connected me with so many amazing people. 

If I’d done the “realistic” thing, and stayed in my stressful, albeit interesting, corporate job, I’d be a completely different person today. There would be no Bold Life Movement. There would be no foray into personal development. I wouldn’t have the level of awareness that I have now. 

Spoiler: I’m still human, and not every day is social media post-worthy, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. 

So honor the crazy ideas and wild dreams that loop through your mind, but are born in your heart. Trust yourself, and believe in those dreams. You really can live on the proverbial tropical island. You just have to decide if you want to.  

Giving Thanks & Saying Goodbye to 2016

I think it's important to give thanks and gain perspective before diving into a new year. I noted in my recent How to Create Achievable Goals for 2017 video that practicing gratitude is essential for gaining clarity about where you are and where you want to go, and signaling to the Universe what you want to receive more of.

We can appreciate what the previous 365 days brought us to transcend what no longer serves, and to carry with us what does. Here's my thank you letter to 2016; the good the bad and even the ugly. 

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Dear 2016, 

You sneaky sonofagun.

I’m finally learning to trust that you might actually know what you’re doing...

It’s amazing how you’re always finding new ways to push me, test me, toss me in the air, and then blow my mind. You are truly gifted.

There have been so many moments over the past few weeks, that I remember people who came into my life, or experiences I’ve had and I think "there’s no WAY that was within the past year?? It’s too much!"

And you look at me, with that deservedly smug expression and nod. Because of course it was. Time is just an illusion anyway.

And then I remember, I walked on fire this year; clearly anything is possible...

I thought after 2015 there was surely no more tears left in my body. But true to form, you proved me wrong. 

I thought the levels of rejection and anxiety I felt in 2015 were the worst that one could ever endure. But of course, you showed me new corners of pain. And through them, a new capacity for strength. 

I thought that the inspiration and fulfillment I felt in creating The Bold Life Movement was enough. But you held my hand, and led me to even more joy. And you gave me a glimpse into an even greater impact to come.

I thought that by now I’d have accomplished more in my business. But yet again, you taught me that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be. Progress comes in many flavors, and we don’t always get to choose the lessons we learn.

You reminded me that I (we) need to step up. And, that we are all innocent. Only after I learned this CRUCIAL lesson was I able to release a year’s worth of pain, and return to my true essence.

Thank you.

Thank you for all of the times you put me in a big metal box in the sky, and somehow placed me safely in some other part of the world. Thank you for all of the amazing humans I got to meet in those places. Literally HUNDREDS of people who you brought in to remind me who I am, remind me who I’m not, and remind me what is possible in this crazy life.

Every email, every tweet, every facebook message that served as a sign I’m on the right path, thank you.

Every conference, from Mike Dooley to Tony Robbins, From Podcast Movement, to Diving Living Academy to World Domination Summit. Even when I had decided not to go, you INSISTED. In the form of gifted flights, free accommodations, and symbols of love and generosity that overwhelm me, still. Thank you. 

Thank you for showing me that it is utterly ridiculous to believe that I will ever be alone. 

Thank you for providing me a producer, and a platform to reach thousands of people through the podcast. And for always supplying amazing and gracious guests. 

Thank you for introducing me to some of the most successful people in my industry. And then reminding me, ever so subtly that they too, are just human. 

Thank you for the “coincidences” and serendipitous moments that can only be described as pure magic. And for sending me those exactly when I needed them most.

Thank you for the love making, the heart-breaking, and the moments of despair. Thank you for teaching me to be grateful even in those moments. How you managed that shift in me, is still a miracle. 

Thank you for showing me what apathy feels like, so I can leave it here with you. I get the gist that 2017 isn’t interested in entertaining that sort of thing. 

Thank you for Mike Dooley, for the Ippie family, and for the gifts he shares with the world. For giving me the power to teach people about THEIR power to attract whatever they want into their lives. And then letting me win 4 separate prizes at the event… very nice touch. 

Thank you for all the things I’ve manifested into my life this year. Financial, emotional, tangible, experiential. 

Thank you for my Tony Robbins community. For every dance, every hug, every incantation, every tear, and all the massive breakthroughs that have come both inside and outside the conference room. I am forever in awe of his impact, and the people I now call family.  <3

Thank you for the humble and generous Chris Guillebeau, and his magical World Domination Summit. On the flight home from the 2015 WDS, I wrote in my journal that I wanted to speak at the 2016 conference and you made that happen. (okay, I guess I helped too). Set the intention, take the action, believe. I’m learning!

Thank you for Emily Nolan and the #beprettybrave women. Your ability to hand pick each and every delicious woman to create the perfect recipe of lessons-learned and love-shared is pure art.

Thank you for my beautiful, sweet, funny, AMAZING clients. I now see why I wasn’t ready for them in 2015.

Thank you for always having my back, even when I was sure I was on a solo ride. 

Thank you for bringing back my Faith. 

2016, you rocked me and then returned me to my radiant self. 

I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you. 

Hugs & Love,
Kimberly 

How to Create Achievable Goals for 2017

Goal Setting 2017

2017 is comin' in HOT. 

I absolutely LOVE reflecting on the past year, and preparing for the year ahead. I'm one of those people who nerds out hard on planners, and organization. But more than that, it's really fun to daydream about what I want life to look like (and then remember that it's 100% possible to make it happen.)

If there's one thing that I've learned for CERTAIN over the past few years, it's that deciding, committing, visualizing, and taking action towards a goal, always results in its manifestation. This post isn't about how to manifest your dreams though; today we want to set you up for success in 2017 by creating measurable, reachable goals. 

Have you started thinking about what you want to achieve, and what you want your life to look like 365 days from now? 

If you're a procrastinator, or you're just a poor goal setter, fret not.

I created this short vid to outline HOW to create achievable goals to keep you going strong through 2017. 

 

You deserve to have the best year yet, so why not set yourself up for success?

*Cheers to making life whatever we want*

Hugs & Love,
Kim


PS - We still have some spots open for the 2017 Bold Life Business School - Personal Branding Bootcamp.

If you're thinking that NOW MIGHT ACTUALLY be the time to launch your business and make an impact, book a call with me asap to see if you're a good fit. 

What If You Changed Someone's Life Just by Being You?

What a whirlwind couple of months it has been. Two conferences, 1 retreat, 9 planes, and 4 cities. Breakthroughs and connections abound. 

I couldn’t imagine my life without frequent travel, but what has made these recent trips so meaningful is the work I’ve done on myself (and my business) and the impact I’ve been able to make on other people’s live, just by showing up.

Just by throwing on some yoga clothes, saying yes to adventure, and boarding a moderately sketchy plane, I was able to create a ripple effect that I’ll never fully comprehend. 

Photo: Mary Beth Koeth Photography

Photo: Mary Beth Koeth Photography

We all have that power, so I hope that this post will encourage you to claim it.

In case you don't follow my every move on social media, here's what you missed: at the end of November, I attended a #beprettybrave women’s wellness retreat in Costa Rica. It was run by my friend (and podcast guest) Emily Nolan.

The goal: for 7 straight days, we ditch our makeup, ditch electronics, embrace nature, explore what it means to love ourselves, and we emerge cleansed and connected to new life-long sisters. 

Sounds pretty epic, right?

Of course, I’m always looking for any opportunity to inspire and help people up-level their life and live more in alignment with their desires, but I had no idea that over the course of the retreat, I’d be gifted so many opportunities to do just that.

I just thought we’d eat some healthy food, do some yoga, maybe shed a few tears and call it a win.

To be honest, I’m so used to “my story” that sometimes I forget how quitting my corporate job to travel the world can be empowering for someone else. I forget that my ability to accept who I am, and to assert what I am/am not okay with in my life, can be an invitation for other people to do the same in theirs. 

One of the benefits of being off the grid in the jungles of Costa Rica was that we had ample time to connect. Both with each other, and with ourselves. I learned about the other women's struggles in their careers (overworked, undervalued), and struggles in their relationships (Were they in it for the right reasons? Were they being true to themselves by staying?)

I opened up candidly about the challenges I’ve faced in my relationship with my dad, and the inevitable insecurities that can come with running your own business. Being so transparent is TERRIFYING, but what I found was this:

Vulnerability is power; it releases any need you have to be anything but yourself, and it empowers other people to do the same. 

And ultimately, it connects you. 

I’ll never forget what one of the women told me on Day 1... As we walked, flashlights in hand, back to our tree houses, a chorus of howler monkeys surrounding us, she said to me, “Kim, I believe you’re the reason I’m here.”

(Even as I type that, my eyes tear up and my throat tightens.) 

We continued to connect throughout the week, and since returning home, she and another young woman from the retreat have quit their jobs to (you guessed it) travel the world. What they're doing, is capitalizing on the momentum they created in Costa Rica, and TAKING IMMEDIATE ACTION. 

It's when inspiration meets action that the real magic happens. 

Who knows the people they'll meet along the way, and the lives they'll touch! Having any hand in that is so humbling.

Photo by: Mary Beth Koeth Photography

Photo by: Mary Beth Koeth Photography

One of the ways we were able to create such quick intimate friendships, was that over the course of the week, Emily led us in a series of content sessions. We’d gather in the Pagoda and sit cross-legged on our yoga mats, circling the alter. There in our sacred space, we'd share our fears, our dreams, our judgements, and our desires. 

On the last day, we wrapped up with a closing ceremony of intention. Each women defined their goal for re-entering the real world, and shared with the group what they wanted to bring back with them, and take action on. 

We then selected an accountability partner (or a “Permitter” as Emily called her); someone to encourage you, and support you, as they too are on a similar journey.

We also selected an “Inspirer.” This woman was chosen because she has been where you want to go. Her role is to inspire, and support from a place of mentorship. 

As we each took turns going to the front and selecting our permitters and inspirers, then explaining why we had chosen them, the most surprising thing happened...FIVE out of the 11 other women picked me; four as their inspirer, and one as her permitter. (Cue cry-face emoji).

To say that I was humbled, flattered, and shocked would be an understatement. But this gesture, this ritual, SHOWED me what is possible when you just show up as yourself. It illustrated my ability to achieve what I feel called to contribute in the world, when I don't overthink it. 

In Costa Rica, there was no possible way for me to fake who I am or what I stand for.

What if I showed up that way every day? What if we all did? 

When I returned home, I anxiously unpacked my suitcase, and settled in with my [new] costa rican coffee and 11 love letters; each given to me by the women from the retreat. Every letter echoed what I had learned up in the jungle: that by being exactly who I’m meant to be, my impact on those around me is far greater. 

I share with you some of these words of affirmation, not to toot my own horn, but to show you what’s possible.

The truth is that I wrote very similar sentiments to each of these women. In them, I found parts of myself I thought I had lost. I was reminded of the type of woman I strive to be. I remembered truths about love and loss that define who we are. And I realized the INCREDIBLE strength that women have (sorry guys, but in some ways we will just always have you beat.) 

I know that if you’re reading this, it’s because there’s something in you that is calling out to make a similar impact. That your heart would be just as touched as mine to receive a note from someone saying how you’ve impacted their life for the better. My guess, is that you're already having that impact, even if you don’t yet know. 

If you’re unsure how to get back to your truth, or you're unclear on how to share that truth with the world, then let's chat. Each of us deserves to live a life where we shine our absolute brightest and through that, allow others to do the same. Book a free clarity call with me to see how we can get you back on track. 

Don't waste your gifts, and don't waste your days being anything but exactly who you're meant to be.

Hugs & Love,
Kimberly


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How JP Sears & Elizabeth Gilbert Helped Me to Ditch Perfection

JP Sears & Elizabeth Gilbert Blog Post


What is the one creative idea that you’ve been sitting on? You know what I’m talking about. The one that follows you around, creeps into your mind as your falling asleep, and consistently shows up on your list of things you promise to do “once the time is right.”

The “right time” being when you have more time, when you have better equipment, when you have more skills...

But, SPOILER ALERT, the “right time” never comes.

And so you have to learn to move forward in spite of that. 

So again, what is your thing?

Do you want to write more? Paint more? Start a podcast? Chances are, we all have something creative that we keep putting off…and putting off….and putting off...

I’m just as guilty of this--don’t let this blog post fool you. 

For months, I’ve been sitting on some ideas that I have for comedic, self-deprecating, satirical videos about growing a personal brand and an online business. Let’s be serious, the material is endless.

I’ve actually lost countless hours of sleep because the ideas just start flowing out of me. I giggle to myself in bed as I furiously try to type them all in my Evernote. My dog looks at me like I’m the rudest person for disrupting her slumber, but I don’t care, because in that moment I’m a GENIUS.

But then morning comes and I do nothing. I continue delaying production because I have all the normal excuses: My camera sucks. I don’t have an external mic. I need lighting. My hair should probably be cut by someone other than myself… 

The list goes on and on. 

In a recent Facebook Live, Elizabeth Gilbert was talking about the concept in her book, Big Magic, that ideas don’t stay with one person indefinitely. There’s a finite time that we are blessed with each idea, before eventually inaction leads them to leave us, and they (the ideas) go find another human more willing to take advantage of their magic. 

I think I audibly gasped when I heard this. 

“Mine!" I thought. I want these videos to be mine! 

Not in a selfish way (or maybe totally in a selfish way). All I knew was that my time for feeling inspired by and motivated by the concept for these funny videos was limited, and if I didn’t act soon, I’d inevitably forget what the point was. 

So I decided to get over myself.  

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Since I knew that the process for filming the series of satirical videos would be somewhat time intensive, and I wouldn’t see the ROI for a while, I decided to simultaneously start building my youtube channel with content I was already creating on a weekly basis— the Podcast

What this means is, in addition to the audio file which you'll still be able to listen to on your phone via iTunes, stitcher, soundclound, etc. you’ll also be able to view each interview on Youtube

This is a great confidence-boosting first step because it gets me more comfortable with seeing my face on the screen, and the rewarding effect of seeing a growing archive of videos on my channel is encouraging to produce more. 

My recent interview with JP Sears was the perfect episode to kickstart this new podcast format for a few reasons: 

A) Because he’s obviously comfortable in front of the camera.
B) Because people are used to seeing him in front of a camera (and seem to dig it).
C) Because he is someone (in addition to Liz Gilbert) who inspired me to stop waiting until I “feel” like a pro, and just start now. 

If you look at JP’s famous youtube series, How to be Ultra Spiritual, he uses mostly natural light, and edits in iMovie. 

I have access to both of these things. 

JP didn’t wait until he had the most expensive equipment, and a full time video editor before he started. He didn’t stress about how to connect the dots from where he was, to the massive presence he’s grown over the past two years. 

In actuality, there’s no way JP could have predicted the level of success those videos have achieved, and if he had known the impact it may have paralyzed him into inaction by how daunting and overwhelming it would have seemed. 

No, instead, he just listened to his gut. And his gut said “You’re funny. Be funny. Share this part of you. Trust me."

And so he did. 

And then, I followed suit.  

I decided that instead of looping the same tired excuses in my mind about why I still wasn't ready, I researched the best tips for recording videos using your iPhone, ordered the best/cheapest lavaliere mic from amazon, and asked a friend if I could borrow his Diva Light. 

Lights, camera, action.

Whether it’s recording videos, writing content, or getting a website up, whatever you’re waiting to feel good enough to do, just do it now. Chunk it down, decide on bite sized steps for moving forward, and just start with one thing at a time. 

In reality, it takes time to build traction, and for your followers to grow. Chances are good, not that many people will even see your early efforts.

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Before I had professional photos, my site was just a blog with pictures I’d pulled from Canva, or taken with my iPhone. But people started to engage because they were excited to see that I was writing, and wanted to know what this whole Bold Life Movement thing was all about. Not once did someone comment on my lack of professional photos. 

So if you’re waiting to launch that project that’s been tapping you on the proverbial shoulder for months, start now. And start small. Don't wait until everything is perfect, because it never will be.

If you’re building a website, start with something easy like Squarespace, and just start publishing content. If it makes you feel more comfortable, ask a friend to edit it!

If you’ve got an idea for a podcast, start recording episodes with your iPhones headset and the free quicktime player on your computer. Before I ordered my Yeti mic, this was more than sufficient for my first Free Audio Training. 

Want to ramp up your video as well? Grab a cheap lav mic that plugs into your iPhone. Rig together some lights from home depot, and edit in iMovie. 

You’re never going to feel ready, so you might as well just start. 

Do the thing, and you’ll get the energy to do the thing.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson


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How I Got a Celebrity to Record a Birthday Video For My Mom

Kimberly Rich
Any time you give someone the opportunity to tell you no, you also give them equal opportunity to say yes.


Don’t you love that? It shows how much opportunity and possibility you invite by just asking people for what you want. 

Let me give you an example.

Last week was my mom’s birthday, and I wanted to do something really special for her. The standard jewelry, flowers, card, blah blah blah, it just wouldn’t do. Not only is she my mom (bless her) but she’s also been one of my biggest supporters since launching The Bold Life Movement. 

No. A regular gift wouldn’t cut it. It had to be something unique. Something bold.

Then I thought of the one thing that she couldn’t go out and buy for herself. And once it came to me, I knew I had to make it happen. That "thing" was a personal birthday message from one of her favorite actors. Preferable format? Video.

To explain how I ACTUALLY pulled this off, I recorded a short Facebook Live earlier this week and laid out the whole thing. The intention behind the video is to show what is actually possible WHEN YOU JUST ASK for what you want. People will often surprise you.


This concept is so near and dear to me, that I have an entire chapter dedicated to it in my book

Whether it feels like a "big" ask or a "small" one (this obviously varying person to person) there are so many ways in which you can politely, and elegantly ask people in your life for what you need, or what you want.

Be it your boss, your spouse, your friends, or the flight attendant, typically you're imposing far less than you think.

I hope this message inspires you to go out and GET what you want this week. I’d love to hear about it! 

So go ahead, leave a comment below!  And tell me:  

What is something in your life this week that you can ask for?

Or in other words, how can you let people help you?

Where can you give them the opportunity to say yes?


Leave a comment and let me know!

Hugs & Love,
Kimberly

Why You Should Create a Manifesto

Bold Life Movement Manifesto

One of the biggest struggles that I faced early on in my business (and that I see others struggle with ALL. THE TIME.) is getting SUPER clear on what they stand for, and who they serve. 


Creating a manifesto is not only a quick way for people to familiarize themselves with your brand, but it’s also a super fun exercise. Win, win!


There are a handful of different ways you can go about creating a manifesto, and each has it’s own set of benefits for your readers. In this article, I’ll outline some of the variations you can opt for, how you can go about creating one, and then what on earth to do with it. 


First, let’s get clear on what a Manifesto is. Though manifestos can take many shapes and forms, the intention is universal.

 
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Merriam Webster defines a manifesto as: a written statement that describes the policies, goals, and opinions of a person or group.

Essentially, this is a place for you to clarify: 

  • Your core beliefs.
  • What you aspire to create or embody.
  • Advice for how others can do the same.
  • Rules or policies that you adhere to.

This exercise is super beneficial for all parties because anyone who wishes to adopt your manifesto or abide by what’s set forth in it, will likely have  an easier time: 

  • Making decisions for their own life.
  • Evaluating opportunities more effectively.
  • Course correcting when they get off track from their goals.
  • Surrounding themselves with people who also share the same belief systems. 
A manifesto is a great way to condense your message into a short, all-encompassing format. People can read it, print it, email it to their friends, or feed it to their dog.
— Jeff Goins

Manifestos are digestible pieces of content that can help unite you with your followers, but also strengthen the community among them. 

Other reasons you might create a manifesto for branding purposes: 

  • Helps people connect to your mission. 
  • Gives people something to share. 
  • You can sell it if you have an established brand. 

So you’ve decided this manifesto-business is for you... 

But what kind should you create? Do you opt for a more visual approach like the Holstee Manifesto? Or are you longer winded, and prefer to follow Jeff Goins Example. 


Short answer: choose whatever fits you and your brand the most.

If you’re appealing to writers, then maybe an ebook or PDF is more your style. If you want something that people can easily post around the web (or in their home) then a visual graphic is probably more appropriate. 

Here are a few styles you can choose from, based on what your intention may be: 

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  • Personal: List of goals, or experiences. This could be a bucket list
  • Thought Leader/Expert: Think of these as commandments or Best Practices that your clients can live by. 
  • Corporate: 


TYPOGRAPHY + IMAGERY

  • Personal: Think of this as a public vision board. 
  • Thought Leader/Expert: Similar to the Holstee example or The Bold Life Movement Manifesto below, this is a visual representation of your values and intentions. Corbett Barr also employs this style with his Expert Enough Manifesto.
  • Corporate: This can personalize your brand more, Lululemon Manifesto is a great example. 

VIDEO

  • As videos grow in popularity, this can be a really great choice for anyone looking to connect deeper with their audience. Ex: Creating a video for your about page on your blog, business website, etc.


PDF OR EBOOK

  • Thought Leader: Chris Guillebeau and Jeff Goins offer great examples for their followers who are aiming to create careers in writing. 
  • Corporate: Your company’s manifesto may be a summary of the mission statement, goals for the company, and a description of the world you’re looking to create through your work. 
 
The Bold Life Movement Manifesto
 

No matter what style of Manifesto you choose to create, you have options in how you bring this baby to life. 

DIY is great for anyone bootstrapping or creating their manifesto for more personal reasons. Here are some ways you can hack it on your own:

  • Visual Manifestos: You can create actually it yourself in an hour or so using tools like Canva, photoshop, microsoft word, etc. The Bold Life Manifesto you see above was created using Canva. 
  • Video: You can use your iPhone or digital camera and edit in iMovie or other free video editing software. 
  • PDF: These are easier than ever to personalize. Just create your documents in Word or Google Docs, print as PDF, and Voila! 


If you want to save time, or you know your design skills are lacking, you can easily outsource some of all of the options above and for not that much money. Fiverr, Upwork, & Freelance are great sources for getting help with design editing services on really any sort of project. 


Launching a brand can be daunting with all the moving parts. Simplify your life, and get clear on your vision from the start by creating a manifesto to unite your readers/followers/customers/etc, and to give cohesiveness to your message.  

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Know Your Audience - A.K.A. When to Keep Your Mouth Shut

 
Know Your Audience-1
 


I was hanging out in the pool this past weekend with a friend (because #laborday, and also it’s Austin, and our pools are open 10 months out of the year) and we were chatting about business and private jets. You know, the usual.


He’s a very successful entrepreneur so it’s rare that our businesses (or at least his) don’t come up in conversation.


We started talking about Tony Robbins' net worth (as you do) and his private plane, and I ended up confessing that last year I had downloaded the Jetsmarter app on my phone. My intention was to signal to the Universe that a private jet was on my list of desires and if it could be so kind as to get the ball rolling on that….

And that’s when steam started coming out of my friend's ears. 


This person is one of my closest friends; I know better than to talk to him about the woo woo side of my business and my life. I know that books like Science of Getting Rich, and Think and Grow Rich not only didn’t contribute to his success, but he thinks they’re total crap. 

know your audience


Don’t worry, MANY successful people have attributed their success in part to their mindset practice and belief in the power of the law of attraction. 


But not this person. Our light conversation had now shifted and his participation in our dialogue now primarily consisted of eye rolls, nostril flares, etc. I was sure to point out both because I’m assertive and annoying like that. 


The point of this story is not to illustrate how close-minded my friend is, or how illogical I am. The point is that if mindset work and affirmations give you the necessary confidence to take action towards your goals, then DO THEM. But be cognizant of who you talk about these things with. 


If you’re reading my article, then chances are good you’ve already read Think and Grow Rich, or similar books, and understand the power of focus, intention, and affirmations. You understand that everything is just energy and we are predisposed to thrive and for the Universe to deliver to us what we need and what we ask for. 


Since you likely speak my language, listen up. It does you no good to preach about these principles to people who have no interest in hearing it. It only causes frustration for you and your friends to try and convince people of things that they firmly disagree with. 


And that’s their prerogative. This friend (and others like him) are still VERY supportive of me and my business. But in other ways. It’s important to be aware of your audience and to be intentional about what you share with them. Be it friends, family, former colleagues, etc. 


Just as you wouldn’t talk about politics with everyone in your life, it’s equally important to pick and choose who you talk to about your personal development, your beliefs, and your business goals. Some people may mean well but their form of support comes across like harsh criticism and can leave you feeling deflated and unmotivated. Again, just know your audience. 


When I first launched my business, I had one friend who openly trolled my social media posts. I don’t even think he meant it to be as malicious as it came across, I think it was his form of humor, but it was anything but supportive. And I ended up blocking him from my business page. 


You have that same right. Create boundaries to protect the things that are important to you, this includes your ideas and beliefs and goals about your business. 


I recently had a conversation with a friend about our Facebook groups for our forthcoming books, and we were discussing our process for inviting people to join. She said she had a very clear “no-invite” list, consisting of people that she knew wouldn’t be interested or supportive. And who likely wouldn’t resonate with the content enough to add or get value by being there. 


You may feel inclined to tell EVERYONE about your new business thinking that’s the best way to spread the word, but be aware that not everyone is going to get it. 

I don’t want this advice to imply that you shouldn’t post things on your personal Facebook page, and you shouldn’t share your message with the world. What I want to impart is that you should use your judgement when sharing things that are important to you, especially if they’re personal and potentially fragile like a new business idea, or a new belief system. 


Find a community of people who you can be open about these things with, and accept your existing circle for who they are. If it reaches a point that you all no longer can connect because your interests have become so polarizing then you’ll organically drift apart. But until then, know your audience, and know when to keep your mouth shut.  
 

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Real Talk: What I learned in the First Year of Business.

What I learned in the first year of business

Sitting at the coffee shop here in Austin reflecting on what has transpired in the past year, I’m overwhelmed with gratitude. Also caffeine… 


It’s so easy to sit here in the same seat where I built my website 12 months ago and think “I thought I would have hit 6-figures by now!” or “I thought I would have hosted my retreat in Bali by now!”
 
Yes, these are totally achievable goals, and a handful of new coaches hit these within a year. BUT SO MANY MORE DO NOT. 


What's more, when hitting six figures isn’t the primary goal, it makes it a really hard target to hit. My goals this past year were more about developing a recognizable brand than they were about filling my coaching program and hitting any financial goals. And that’s the truth, baby. 


The reality is, there are a million things we can tell ourselves every day to diminish our success. There are a million ways we belittle our progress and compare ourselves to other people who are “so much further than us.” 


But what good is that? Comparison-induced paralysis does us no good. The fact is, I’ve been able to create some really incredible things in the past year: 

  • Successful Podcast on iTunes with thousands of listeners in over 30 countries.
  • Interviews for TBLM podcast with mentors who I now call friends. 
  • Speaking at the conference that inspired it all last year, World Domination Summit.
  • Working on my first book (set to release end of 2016/early 2017).
  • Features on other podcast and publications including Huffington Post. 

There are countless lessons I’ve learned over the past year, and I infuse each of my coaching sessions with this new knowledge to ensure that my clients can skip the mistakes I’ve made. Don’t worry, every entrepreneur will create mistakes and lessons of their own! 


Here are some of the biggest time (and energy) saving lessons I’ve been fortunate enough to go through since launching The Bold Life Movement: 


1. Put your shit out there


One of the hardest things for people launching personal brands to overcome is this fear that EVERYONE WILL JUDGE YOU. I remember being petrified to even tell my friends about The Bold Life Movement back when it was just a blog. I was afraid people would think it was lame, or narcissistic or who knows what else. 


#Truthbomb: If you’re going to create content for people to consume, if you’re going to embark on a journey of helping others, you’re going to have to embrace a necessary level of audacity to think you can actually provide value. And eventually you’re going to HAVE to hit publish, to make an offer, and to tell people about what you are doing. 


The need to be initially (and then consistently) visible has been one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned. And that’s coming from the creator of the damn bold life movement! 


Don’t let your fear of being judged keep you from reaching the people you were meant to reach. You won’t inspire anyone if they don’t know about you. 


2. Stay aligned above all else. 


There was a period in my business where I found myself emulating people who were having success in my industry, because that’s how I thought I would have success. RED FLAG. 


You might think this sounds like a really smart thing to do. But the issue lies in the fact that while they were “in my industry” their goals were not the same as mine. I mentioned earlier that my goals this past year were not based in financial growth or filling my 1:1 coaching program. If they were, I wouldn’t have started the podcast because to be frank, that’s not the fastest way to fill your coaching program. 


My goals were to create a recognizable brand (notice my domain is not my name. It is the brand that I’m focused on growing globally.) 


When your message and your business become misaligned with your true goals, everything stops. You stop feeling inspired to create, you stop attracting the people you want to attract (and start attracting the people you don’t) and everything gets so out of wack. 


I watched it happen to over a dozen other coaches I know. It goes like this: Launch brand, make money, get burnt out, realize you lost yourself and your true message along the way, go off the grid, rebrand, relaunch!


Whether you’re a speaker, a writer, a coach, or a consultant, ALWAYS be sure you’re staying true to your why. Always stay connected to this authentic drive behind your business and your brand will follow suit. 


The quickest way to lose steam is to start pretending to be something you’re not. 


How did I get back on track? Spending time with myself. Meditating, journaling, (thrashing a bit) and eventually just being honest with myself and with my followers. 


I’m super passionate about ensuring that my clients remain authentic in their branding so they never lose steam and can avoid this same mistake. I’m grateful for this lesson because it helps me to be a better personal branding coach and inspiration to people looking to be bold in their business (and in their life). The boldest thing you can do is to be unapologetically you. 


3. Be ruthless with your time. 


I truly believe that you can have everything you want in life. But the truth is, you likely can’t pursue it all at the same time. It’s going to be hard to create a new social circle, find your soulmate, lose 20 pounds AND build your business, simultaneously. 


If you’ve already got some of those areas of your life covered, awesome. But not everyone does. When you’re building things (be it relationships or a business) typically that one thing becomes the priority. 


In times of business growth, usually your social life suffers. That’s okay. Your true friends will understand that you’re not available to hang out and do nothing 7 nights a week. 


This boundary setting applies online as well. Even though Facebook messenger seems to have replaced email, your phone may be blowing up with texts 24 hours a day, and you may feel constant obligation to respond to people, you must resist. Set expectations on text, in email, and on platforms like Facebook messenger that you do NOT respond right away. 


You are busy building an empire! Be ruthless with your time! You think Marie Forleo or Seth Godin or [insert your thought leader of choice here] are spending their time responding to messages on Facebook? Ef no. 


And neither are you. Batch that sort of thing, and always remember your time is now valuable. If you don’t respect that, how can you expect other people to? 


Along the same vein, it can be really easy for new entrepreneurs to DIY every last thing. This is fine, to a degree. But please don’t make the same mistakes I’ve made. 


Don’t let yourself get sucked down the rabbit hole of custom CSS or website tweaks that seem to erase entire days. Why? Because it’s likely NOT a valuable, revenue-generating tweak that you’re making.  If it is, then calculate your worth on an hourly basis and then outsource that task as fast as possible. 


There are so many available avenues for sourcing developers, designers, copyrighters, FB ads specialists, etc. Upwork, Fiverr, Freelancer.com are just a few. 


4. Follow the right people and ignore everyone else. 


Once you start connecting with people in your industry, you’ll notice something happen almost immediately. Your Facebook feed will become overwhelmingly targeted towards you and this new path you’re on. 


You’ll get daily sponsored ads inviting you to challenges, courses, and opt-ins of many different shapes and sizes. If you join a bunch of new groups, your notifications will BLOW UP with all sorts of new things that seem important and urgent and you will want to check them, and then spend hours reading all these relevant posts. 

BUT YOU MUST RESIST


In fact, I encourage you to unfollow all of these new friends of yours, especially if they’re creating similar things. That may seem like a dick move, but it’s not. 


Come on, would I make you look like a dick? 


The reason for this, is you will be incapable of creating your badass brand if you’re bogged down with following others’. You’ll also increase your chances of 'compare and despair', thinking you should be much further along than so-and-so.


Similarly, this is a really easy way to trigger shiny-object syndrome. These are very serious ailments and should be avoided at all cost.


If you start clicking on all these amazing FREE TRAININGS TO GROW YOUR INSTAGRAM BY ONE MILLION PEOPLE and TRIPLE YOUR TRAFFIC ON PINTEREST WITH ONE IMAGE and whatever else, then it will be super easy to keep switching gears and trying all the things. But trying all the things simultaneously does not bring you success. Focus and consistency bring you success. 


So unfollow people who distract you from your goals. 


That being said, I highly recommend listening to podcasts, reading books, or watching videos by people who inspire you. These are typically thought leaders that are much, much further along than you are, so the tendency to compare yourself to them is much less. 


Instead you feel on FIRE after listening to their content. It sends you into a state of flow. You turn off the podcast or shut the book and immediately fill a page with ideas for blog posts, videos, courses, etc. 


These people are safe. They inspire you into motion, rather than trigger a downward spiral of self doubt and distracted, ineffective action. 


For me, these people are Lewis Howes, Liz Gilbert, Marie Forleo, Jason Silva, Tony Robbins, etc. You likely already know who your people are because they are the reason you got turned onto to this new world, and your new business in the first place. 

Just ensure that for every piece of content you consume, you produce 3. Don’t put off creating because you’re too caught up consuming. 


Entrepreneurship is one of the hardest things that someone can embark on, wrought with uncertainty and never ending self analysis. If you’re brave enough to launch a personal brand, the journey comes with a whole slew of other challenges. 


The rewards though are unparalleled. Testimonials from people who have changed their lives because of an article you wrote, or a piece of advice you gave them during coaching, create more fulfillment than I could possibly convey in this one article.


If you’re one of those people who knows you have a message to share, then chances are good you should. No one can say it the way you can, and you don’t know whose lives could go unaffected if you keep it inside. Just know that you have support and you never have to face it alone. 

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Networking Tips for When You're Feeling Introverted

Networking Tips Introvert

A few weeks ago I attended the Podcast Movement Conference in Chicago. In addition to learning valuable tips for growing your podcast, part of the intention when attending something like this is to make new connections. Connections with mentors, connections with fellow podcasters, and connections with potential guests. 

But what if you just don’t feel like it? 

Yes, even an extrovert like myself can feel like hiding in my hotel room over small-talking with strangers. 

I’ve realized that despite my ability to connect quickly and easily, a lot of that is dependent on context.

How much pressure do I feel to engage?
What is the likelihood that we will be able to bond over something other than just the conference topic?
How organic will this conversation feel?
How forced?
 

Since so much of anything is mindset, including networking, I wanted to highlight some ways that you can set yourself up for connection success even when you’re not feeling particularly social.

Whether you’re a natural introvert, or just not feeling very outgoing, following some (or all) of these tips can pull you out of your shell and help you make the most of any conference or event.

1. Talk to Vendors & Sponsors.
One of the easiest ways to get warmed up is to engage with the booth vendors. This is helpful for a couple reasons. First, they're there to help you and/or sell you on what they have to offer. This can make it feel like you have the upper hand in these conversations. Having that slight feeling of authority can help you relax because you can guide the conversation without worrying about whether or not you're actually "connecting" with them. Though, to be honest, it's much more fun if you do! 

One of the reasons it's so fun to talk to vendors is because they've been sitting there all day saying the same thing over and over. If you can be the one person who comes to their table, makes them laugh, and breaks their pattern a little bit with some banter, it's better for everyone. 

Here's a pic of me and the guys at the Zenolive booth (A company that gives podcasters a phone number that listeners can call to hear the 5 most recent episodes. This is great for listeners who aren't particularly tech savvy, or individuals who would rather use minutes than data). This vendor booth was by far my favorite. We had a great rapport, and immediately felt like friends. My time with them was well spent and I was easily more open to chat with other attendees after visiting their booth. 

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2. Go with a Buddy. 
While it can be easily to use a conference buddy as a crutch to avoid engaging with other attendees, it can also be really beneficial. If you can convince a friend to attend with you, then it can be easier to approach other groups or people. You'll also have a go-to person when you need to sit and mentally recharge. Nothing wrong with that! 

Having a friend in tow can also increase your odds of connecting with people and making post-conference plans because you can divide and conquer. He or she may connect with people that you could benefit from meeting, and vice versa. 
 

3. Attend un-conference Events. 
At most conferences, there are a slew of activities and meetups not on the printed schedule. These can be planned, or spontaneous, but both are beneficial in their own right. I find that even when you're feeling zonked after a day of seminars, rallying to go out and grab dinner or a drink usually proves to be fruitful. This is when everyone can let their hair down a bit, and when you can really connect with people on a more human level. 

It's in these times that friendships, partnerships, and the best memories from the event are formed. 

 
 

4. Give yourself some recharge time. 
Know thyself. If you're someone who feels like a million bucks after a 20 minute nap, by all means nap. Protip: this is where staying at the conference hotel can come in handy. 

If you get cranky from four straight days of airconditioning and artificial light, then get that ass outside. There's nothing wrong with taking a solo stroll through the park, to get some vitamin D and process what you've learned and who you've met. 

There's no "right" way to do conferences, and everyone's needs are different. For some people, the structured networking inherent with events like this is preferred to the after-hours happy hour vibe that feels more comfortable to others. The trick is to listen to your body, and do what works best for you. Knowing that ultimately you want to get the most out of your experience, don't let you be the reason you don't connect with people. 

Let me know what you think of these tips! 

And if you want even more free advice on the topic, check out my interview with Podcast Movement Speaker, Christina Canters: 

If you want even more free advice on the topic, check out my interview with Podcast Movement Speaker Cristina Canters: Networking Lessons with Kimberly Rich

 
 

10 Ways to Create a 'HIT' Podcast Episode from Pat Flynn

Pat Flynn

I recently made a somewhat last-minute decision to attend the Podcast Movement Conference in Chicago. To be frank, I was coming off of a Tony Robbins event, and I was mildly concerned that I wouldn’t be dancing, hugging, or high-fiving nearly enough, but I figured there had to be other perks, right? So I dropped the $500 on the ticket, cashed in some airline points, and I was on my way.

Since The Bold Life Movement Podcast is less than 6 months old (but already at 29 episodes!) I was confident there was something valuable there for me to learn.

Enter, Pat Flynn and his incredible breakout session. 

If you’re not familiar with Pat, he’s been in the entrepreneur and podcasting game for awhile. He’s an OG, and best known for his podcast, Smart Passive Income

It’s easy to get fomo during breakout style sessions because there’s so many interesting things happening at once! Should I learn about monetization, or is storytelling more important? Would it be more lucrative to learn about systems and automation or how to drive more traffic to each episode?

You can see my dilemma. Fortunately, I knew that Pat would deliver, and deliver he did. For anyone interested in Podcasting, read on. For I give you the 10 tried and tested, Pat Flynn methods for creating a HIT (Highly Intentional & Targeted) episode. 

Before we dive in, it’s important to understand the #1 rule for creating HIT episodes. If you don’t follow this rule, then you can’t be assured that each style of episode will achieve its potential.

The Golden Rule: Treat each of these episodes like an EVENT. 

What this means, is that you plan ahead. Pick a launch date and market the episode ahead of time. The goal is to create BUZZ around these episodes. You want to tease people about what’s coming. 

One way to do this effectively is to leak clips from future episodes at the end of current episodes. People love a good teaser. 

Utilize your email list, and tap into your network (and the network of your guests) to help promote. 

Share out to Social media, talk about it in FB videos, and really treat it like it’s something special. 

So, now that we know we all mean business here, on to the meat of this post. Here are the 10 ideas for creating a HIT episode, courtesy of Pat Flynn: 

1. Round up Episode
A Round up episode is a great way to engage listeners, or other podcasters for more exposure.

The concept is that you pick a central theme or topic, and have experts and/or listeners provide their perspectives. They can send in audio using something like Speakpipe.com, or submit answers via a survey. 

By engaging listeners, they feel involved and are more likely to listen to the episode and share it out. If you choose to elicit the thoughts of other podcasters, they’ll likely share the episode out to their list, which gives you more exposure. 

To beef up the episode and help it flow together, add your thoughts in between answers. For creative marketing around this episode, you can put the submitted answers on social cards for easy sharing. 

Here’s an example of this type of episode: Patflynn.com/227
 

2. Interview a Forum Owner
Pick the brain of someone who has a built in following, by interviewing a forum owner. These can be individuals with large FB groups, or leaders of Linkedin Groups, membership sites, etc. Chances are good that these guests will share the episode out with their communities, and engagement is likely to be high since those members have proven interest in the topic, and trust in that individual. 

It’s a win-win for everyone. More free content from someone the members trust, added credibility for that forum leader, and increased exposure for you! 

My recent episode with Jill Stanton from Screw the Nine to Five is a good example of this: theboldlifemovement.com/029

3. The Burst Strategy
The burst strategy is fun, because it’s like a mini series! People love binge watching or binge listening, and your show should be no exception.

What this looks like: instead of releasing one episode, you release 2 or 3 at once. Each episode is connected by a central theme or guest. 

I’ll be utilizing this strategy with my release of the two-part interview I did with Nat Eliason, coming out August 10th. Nat had so much great content to offer, that we recorded two separate episodes. The first focuses a lot on building a lifestyle business, and in the second episode we dovetail into writing, specifically about writing things that can be considered taboo. He shares his vision for the book he’s currently working on, about how men can have better sex. It’s such an interesting and personal combination of interviews and I love the idea of releasing them back to back. 

Be sure to subscribe on iTunes to get access to them when they are released on August 10th: bit.ly/tblmpodcast
 

4. Share-for-Share
Share for Share is kind of a quick win strategy. The concept is that you have someone on your show, and they return the favor. You both gain access to the others’ listeners and email list by promoting the respective shows. It’s valuable for your listeners because they get access to someone who you clearly share values with, AND they get to experience you in a different context as a guest on the other host's show. 
 

5. Contests
Promoting contests is a good way to help your episode go viral. With an app like KingSumo, listeners are motivated to share the episode with more people, because the more entries into the contest that they drive, the more entries they earn. 

You can swing this one of two ways: Promote the contest before the episode is released, and announce the winner on the show. Or promote the contest after the episode to increase how many shares you get. 
 

6. The Challenge
Challenges are a growing trend when it comes to community engagement and growing your following. Simple Green Smoothies is one of the best examples of the Free Challenge method. Multiple times a year, they create buzz around their free 30 day smoothie challenges, where they give away 30 different smoothie recipes for free via instagram.

Their followers increase, and engagement is epic because people love to share the beautiful images, the valuable content, and most of all, they love to share with their friends that they’re accomplishing something difficult. 

If you can cultivate a challenge around one of your episodes, then you can drive listenership because people will want to share their progress publicly. 
 

7. The Poster Boy Episode
The Poster Boy episode is pretty simple. Emulate someone you admire, and then talk about it. For example, I’m releasing a 2-part series next week, a la Pat Flynn, and I’m writing about it in this post. 

Another, non-podcast-related example would be the JP-Sears inspired video that I created recently. This appeals to my audience because they get to see a different, more playful side of me, but it also appeals to lovers of JP (and Tony Robbins) and that encourages shares and exposure from a new audience. 


Poster Boy episodes are also a great way to gain the attention of those people you admire, because tagging them in the social shares could catch their eye. If you can emulate your mentors AND have them share it out to their followers, even better.  
 

8. Podcast Carnival
The Carnival method, or the “mash up” method, is a bit more intensive logistically, but has the potential for a big payoff. For this type of episode, you join forces with other podcasters, and you release 4 different episodes over the course of 1 month (this is assuming there are 4 of you total). 

The intention is to pool together the hosts of similar podcasts to tackle the 'burning questions' of the collective listeners. This type of episode requires some pre-lim marketing and planning as you want listeners to submit their questions, register for the call series, and subscribe to EACH show. The result? Each of you get access to this new list of subscribers, and each show now has additional listeners subscribed on iTunes. 

Check out Pat's slide to see what I mean: 

 
 



The listeners get exposure to different show styles, and get added value in that particular genre. A possible example would be joining up with Business Podcast hosts to answer questions on all things marketing. 
 

9. Round Two - The Follow Up Episode
The Follow Up episode is great for a few different reasons. Listeners love a good “where are they now?” story, so bringing back an old guest is great for your long-time listeners, and encourages newer listeners to go back and listen to old episodes. This can also be really valuable for listeners if the original episode garnered a lot of questions and engagement. Bringing back a particular guest, or elaborating more on a specific topic, provides answers to listeners’ questions and gives them more of what they’ve proven to like. 

This is great for topics or niches that have a lot of layers, or require a lot of explanation. It can also be beneficial for past guests who are now launching a new project or book, or who want to provide updates on the projects they discussed last time they were on the show. 
 

10. Niche Specific Show
While you may think that going super niche will alienate a lot of your audience, you’d be surprised. By sporadically offering super-niche episodes, you’re showing love to a subset of listeners who may not have otherwise tuned in. Most people have a variety of interests so by attracting listeners based on one topic, you may be able to convert them into long-time listeners, and simultaneously show your broader audience that you have layers and a breadth of knowledge to share. 

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What Really Happened at the Tony Robbins Event in Dallas

Tony Robbins Dallas UPW

Earlier this month, I experienced one of the most exhausting, and most rewarding weeks of my life (isn’t it funny how it works out like that?)

I spent 5 straight days working 17 hour days as a volunteer for the Tony Robbins event, Unleash the Power Within.

BUT THAT’S SLAVE LABOR KIM! HE DOESN’T PAY YOU??

No, if he did it wouldn’t be called volunteering. If he paid us, then we wouldn’t be donating our time and it would actually take away from the experience. It’s called contribution for a reason.

Since this particular UPW made national news with 'millions burned at the firewalk', or whatever the headlines read, I wanted to take a moment and share some behind the scenes truth about what really goes down at these events. 

I won’t address the firewalk sensationalism too much, this article did a great job of that, instead I’ll share four of my favorite moments from the event:

1. From Homeless to Hired, Meet La'Ve Jackson.

If there was ever a story to remind me of our ability to change lives in an instant, the story of La’Ve is it. As fate would have it, on the day of the UPW conference, La’Ve was posted up outside the venue selling newspapers. At nine months sober, he was doing what he could to get back on his feet and selling the Street Zines was his way of making an effort to deliver value.

When Paul, one of the UPW crew members, initially encountered La’Ve, he didn’t give him much notice. Something called him back though, and a few minutes later he learned of La’Ve’s perseverance and determination to turn his life around and get clean. 

Back inside the event Paul had the revelation that we were there in Dallas to serve people. There was no difference between this man on the street corner outside, and the thousands of participants inside who had paid to attend. So Paul took initiative to help in whatever way he could, and the results were nothing short of magic.

Paul joined up with some other crew members and together they pooled their money to buy La'Ve a ticket into the conference. My words will never be able to do justice to the joy that radiated from La'Ve, and everyone he met during those 3 days. His gratitude and willingness to play full out 100% led to some truly miraculous changes throughout the weekend. 

 
La'Ve Jackson UPW
 


While attending, he was offered not one, but TWO job offers, and another attendee even gifted him access to Mastery University, which includes three future events and months personal coaching ($10,000 value).

The communication and support inside the UPW Facebook groups is unending-- It’s amazing anyone gets any work done--but because of this strong community support, I’m confident La’Ve will be held accountable to continue onward and upward. 

This was easily one of the most moving stories I’ve ever been fortunate enough to witness. Don’t take my word for it though, check out this video that was created to tell La’Ve’s story. 

If you feel inclined to support La'Ve on his journey, check out this GoFundMe that the crew created for him.

2. The Power of a Simple Smile. 

One of the side effects of crewing is that you find yourself smiling 30 hours a day. You also develop a tendency to say hi to EVERYONE and genuinely want to connect with them. I know, bizarre. 

Some of my favorite moments from the event involved connecting with people I would likely never have gotten to chat with. All possible simply because I was being open, rather than closed off and in my head, or on my phone.

During one of my many trips to the ladies' room (17 hour days mean you’re drinking LOTS of water) I started chatting with the restroom attendant, Ora. I told her she had the best earrings, and conversation ensued. I found that she was genuinely happy to be doing her job and helping us ladies do our biz in a more pleasant environment.

When I saw her later in the day, she remembered our connection, said “My friend Kim!!" and reached out to give me a hug. Cue the heart bubbles. 

This woman is trapped in a bathroom for 9 hours cleaning, she easily could have made some comment about how the paper towels go IN the bin, not on the floor next to it. But no, she was warm and joyous, and her ‘friendship’ is one of the memories I’ll cherish most about those few days in Dallas.  
 

3. When finding your tribe leads to finding true love. 

As a crew member, there are endless perks. Discounts on events, becoming best friends with Tony*, a lifetime supply of alkalizing super foods*, getting to dance on stage, behind the scenes peek at how this event goes off, etc.

Hands down, one of the best benefits of crewing is immediate access to people who share your values and are up to big things. If you’re single, it’s like a real-life dating app, but all the people who don’t get you have been filtered out. 

Stories of new romance abound, but there’s nothing like witnessing these special connections in person. On the last day of the event, at our all-hands crew meeting, we all received a special surprise as one of our crew members got down on one-knee and proposed to his girlfriend in front of everyone. Their love story began when they connected at a UPW in 2015, both adamant that they manifested the other into their lives and that our little family made it possible. 

If you’re one of those people who feels like “there’s no good guys/girls left” then I strongly encourage you to put yourself in more situations where “the good ones” are. By that I mean, join communities where you’re likely to share values with people. Surround yourself with people who want to contribute value to the world, who want to have fun, and do activities with these people that allow you to organically connect. 
 

 
 


4. Getting access to the Ultra Spiritual. 

Just as TR events draw countless opportunities for potential friendships, partnerships, romantic connections, etc. They also have the tendency to draw some established influencers and well known names in the world of business and personal development.

The Dallas event was no different, and front and center at this past UPW was none other than JP Sears from the famous youtube channel Awaken with JP.  

Many attendees snapped selfies and connected with JP over his hilarious Ultra Spiritual videos, and his graciousness was evident throughout the event. His ability to be present with each person and stay down to earth despite his recent fame was so fun to watch. No doubt attributed to his enlightened state and vegan diet...

As an ode to his work, and in the spirit of keep life light and fun, I created this JP-inspired video to help UPW attendees re-integrate back into society following the event. 

Take it with a grain of salt. (Organic, Pink Himalayan salt, of course). 

There are hundreds of memorable moments I could share from my time crewing at the TR event, but these few should offer a taste of what to expect should you ever find yourself curious about attending. 

I always love hearing others’ stories of transformation and growth (and I’m equally happy to answer any questions) so if you’ve ever been to a Tony Robbins event, or want to know more, leave me a comment below!

 

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Photo credit (top): Tony Robbins

The One Thing You Must Do to Achieve Any of Your Goals

Timely image via Momentum Dash. Why staring at this image daily changed my life.

Timely image via Momentum Dash. Why staring at this image daily changed my life.

Three years ago my life was completely different. I would drive an hour to and from work each day, and sit in a cube farm for sometimes up to 12 hours. Don’t worry, I’d get up to attend pointless meetings and spend frivolously at starbucks just to get some air. For the most part, though, I was heads down, and one client call away from a panic attack at any given moment. 

Growing up, I’d always had this inner voice that challenged authority, questioned the status quo, and to be fair got me into a lot of trouble... But one day, three years ago, I heard this voice loud and clear and knew she was right.

First she screamed "What the ACTUAL *F are you doing wasting your time at this office?" Then she lovingly suggested that I make a plan immediately to get out of this situation, and I dunno, start living my life the way I wanted to. 

This voice had a little encouragement from The Four Hour Work Week, but ultimately it was my own decisiveness that would change the course of my life. 

To this day, I credit my next step as the source of my success and happiness. And as the source of my knowing with certainty that we truly can create anything in our lives that we imagine. 

This one step is something that so many people skip, and yet when I tell it to you, you’re going to think it’s so obvious. 

So enough dancing around, the #1 thing that ANYONE should take when they are looking to make change in their life is to get SUPER freaken clear on EXACTLY what they want that change to be!

I told you it was obvious. I’m as perplexed as you that so many people never even make it this far.

So often people are too focused on what they don’t want, that they never even take the time to dream up what they do want, and to get so lasered in on it, that they become aware of all the opportunities popping up to make that desire a reality. 

When I decided that I wanted to move abroad, I was very clear on where. I wanted to live in Thailand. See above. I knew wanted to see that exact scene, and I knew it was possible because other people were already doing it.

To keep my mind right while I was still figuring things out, and showing up to the office each day, I made my desktop background almost the exact same image you see above, and I looked at it every single day. I day dreamed about how it would feel to sit on that island and what a liberating sense of accomplishment it would bring. 

Essentially, I was visualizing, but I didn’t know it at the time. I wasn’t really familiar with this practice yet, and just thought I was avoiding work to think of more interesting things. 

Of course, every other waking moment was devoted to taking action towards this goal, but that’s for another article. The important thing to note here is that without this crystal clear image in my mind of what I wanted, I wouldn’t have known what actions to take. 

Without communicating to the Universe what I was looking to achieve through my thoughts and  images I was surrounding myself with, it never would have known. I never would have known. It would have been so easy to just keep repeating the negative loop I’d played for so long about all the things I hated about my current situation. 

Don’t be confused, I haven't always been so aware of my desires. For months—nay years—I stayed in jobs I hated, and had a schedule I hated, and a commute I hated, and I was sure to let everyone know just how miserable I was. Other people were miserable too, so we bonded at happy hours and holiday parties. To to be honest though, if you asked me today, I wouldn’t be friends with the old me. 

She was negative and unmotivated, because she wasn’t clear on what she wanted in life. 

Don’t be like old Kim. 

Get clear on what you want.

Ask yourself these questions: Where is it, what is it, how does it feel? What kind of person has what you want, or does what you want to do? How can you act more like this person? Who are they connected with, and how can you start connecting with those people? 

Take the time to get really clear on the details, and then start surrounding yourself with reminders that this is what you want. Create a vision board, or write yourself sticky notes, or put the picture up as your desktop background. Whatever method works for you to keep your eyes on the prize. 

Just 3 months after I made the decision that I wanted to move abroad and ultimately to Thailand, I quit my job and boarded a plane for South East Asia. Three months is such a short amount of time for such a massive change to come to fruition!

Kimberly Rich Krabi

Above is a picture of me on that exact beach in Krabi Thailand. Not pictured are the tears I shed as I sat on that beach at night thinking to myself “I really did it. I really freaken did it!” 

Anyone can have these moments, but they’re hard to come by if you don’t ever take the time to decide what you want. 

A [Real] Behind the Scenes Look at Being a Business Owner

 
Don't be fooled... It's not all photo shoots and fancy lights!

Don't be fooled... It's not all photo shoots and fancy lights!

 

One of the biggest reasons for paralysis that many people have when it comes to starting their side hustle, or creating that dream biz, is that they think it has to be perfect. 

This perfectionism creates procrastination, and instead of just STARTING, just taking one small step toward their goal, they stay stuck. They continue talking about this big plan they have, or worse--complaining about their current situation--but they never actually do anything to change it because of their fear of not being good enough, smart enough, etc. 

The frustrating thing is that this misconception about entrepreneurs having their shit together from the get-go could NOT be further from the truth. 

Have you found yourself saying any of the following?

“But I don’t have an office/a warehouse/capital for inventory…"

“But I don’t know how to build a website…"

“But I can’t afford to hire employees…"

“But I don’t know anything about marketing…"

“But I have to hire a photographer and I can’t afford one yet…"

First things first. If you have a computer, you have an office. Congrats and welcome to 2016! 

Fortunately for the technically inept, one of the benefits of living in this day and age is that there are sooo many DIY options for creating a website, or an online presence. From Wordpress, to Squarespace, to Shopify, you can literally have a store front or blog up within hours. 

And with social media apps abound, often people can find ways to market their services, and even make sales WITHOUT a site. 

So I’m sorry to bust your bubble, but this excuse is null and void. 

What if you’re worried that your site will look ghetto because you don’t have the resources to hire a professional photographer? Got you covered. Lucky for you, there are now countless sites for accessing stock photos to supply your site, your social accounts, etc. Stocksnap.io and Pexels.com are just two that come to mind. 

The truth though, is that even your iPhone can produce internet-worthy snaps. 

Let me prove it. 

With the growing trend of people selling on amazon, I was invited recently to help a friend out by modeling for some photos that he needed for his new amazon product listing. His product samples were in, and he needed someone with a halfway decent face to pose with the products in a variety of ways.

In exchange for a free meal, I stood outside his home, in front of a white sheet and channeled my inner Chrissy Teigen (or my inner catalogue model…this is amazon after all).

The neighbors looked at us like we were crazy, as my friend swirled around me snapping pics with his iPhone. A few feet away, another friend fanned my feet with a broom to help fight off mosquitos as I dabbed drops of sweat from my forehead. It was 90 degrees outside with 80% humidity. Ah, the glamour. 

Really, there was nothing “professional” or “sexy” about the scene. It was just as ghetto as it sounds. 

But it was fun! And the truth is, with a little photoshopping, the pictures will look more than legit enough to bring in a few extra grand of passive monthly income for my friend. 

Being an entrepreneur is SCRAPPY sometimes, but that’s the reality of it. Sometimes you work so long you forget to eat, sometimes you’re answering client emails with no pants on, sometimes you literally don’t even know how you just got paid to do what you do, but because you have that fire in you, you keep going.  

Here’s another example. 3 years ago, I launched an commerce store selling watersports equipment. I remember the first time I got a sale, it was 12 a.m. Asia-time (where I was living at the time) and I was sitting in my bed wearing PJs and there’s a good chance I hadn’t showered in two days. (We call that "hustle mode").

When the notification came in, I ran into my roommate’s room screaming and pointing to my computer.

“NOW WHAT?!” I said. "Someone gave me money!" 

He looked up at me from his bed, “Fulfill their order?"

He, as you can tell, was an experienced entrepreneur. 

“OH RIGHT!!”

I ran back into my room, my heart pounding. This shit works! I thought. I snapped a selfie to document the ridiculousness of what being a real life business owner looked like (see below). 

 
Making that dough.

Making that dough.

 

And then I fulfilled my first ever order. 

The point is that most people don’t know what they’re doing until they start. You learn along the way, you get better at copywriting, sales, website design, and knowing your customers' wants through experience. 

Since done is so much better than perfect, and we’ve shown that so many excuses we have for not starting now are just BS, then there’s really nothing left to hold you back. 

If you’ve ever wanted to create a side business, or increase your number of revenue streams through entrepreneurial endeavors, there’s never been a better time. There’s literally countless courses and services to support you.

Being an entrepreneur is messy, and the reality is that most people are faking it until they make it. So start now. Make mistakes. Fail fast. 

Find people [like me] who can support you, who can help to give you the resources you need and who can hold you accountable for your goals and ambitions.

Here are some great resources to help get you up and running quickly: 

How to be happy when it feels like everything is going wrong

How to be happy

As I swung the door open to my apartment, the heat hit me like a wall. A steamy, dank, wall. I had been gone for eleven days and in my absence the air-conditioning had broken transforming my apartment into a tropical rainforest. 

I tried not to think about the fact that this was the hottest and most humid it’s been in Austin all year. What an inconvenient time this was to have my air-con flake on me.

After a long day of work, and then 8 hours of travel back to Austin this was the last thing I wanted to deal with. My bed was calling. My dog needed cuddling. (Read: I needed cuddling). She looked up at me like, “you abandoned me for long enough, and now this?" Her fur coat surely would keep her awake all night in 89 degrees. 

Even with all the windows open, the temperature would only drop by a few degrees, and the issue would have to wait until the next day to be fixed. 

I woke the following morning after an inevitably restless sleep, to find my internet had been shut off. Some issue with an expired credit card that I was never notified about. I swallowed back the tears as I sat on my couch sweating. “Everything is figureoutable, Kim. Everything is figureoutable."

As you read this article from your computer or phone, it should come as no surprise that the internet is pretty integral to the success of my career. Without it, there is no blog, no podcast, no clients. This would not do...

After a few minutes on the phone with the Internet provider, I was back up and running. I heaved a sigh of relief and immediately began stalking the property manager via email about getting the air condition fixed. I had two podcast episodes slated that day and I’d been waiting months for these interviews (one of them, years) and I didn’t want to have to cancel. 

In the end, they both had to be pushed out. 

“Not the end of the world.” I told myself. 

Instead I chose to look forward to a long catch up dinner with a close friend. But when I went to hop in my car to drive to her house, it wouldn’t start. 

You’ve got to be effing kidding me. 

I JUST purchased this car a couple months ago. And in that time, I’ve had it jumped on more than six occasions, and had it in the shop twice. I swore these issues were now behind me...

With Uber and Lyft now gone from Austin, transportation is much more limited for those without wheels of their own. 

After two failed attempts to jump my car with the help of some neighbors I reserved a Car2go, and started my walk in the 90 degree heat. 

Objectively none of the issues above are world-ending, life-shattering things. But the compounding effect of lingering stresses from the previous week, coupled with my expectations of coming home to my house as I left it, can render anyone a bit frustrated. 

So how do we deal when it feels like “nothing is going our way?” 

To say “stay positive” would feel a bit trite, so I’ll break down for you exactly how I coped. 

When I climbed in the tiny smart car, drenched in sweat,  the first thing I did was not check the mirrors, or even log into the dashboard system to start the car, and kick on the AC.

Instead, I let myself cry. I sat there, shoulders hunched, too big for this micro-car and just sobbed. Because the truth is that my body needed it. To be able to get past the stress, and frustration and choose happiness, I had to let myself release all of it first. 

So I sat there in this joke of a car and wept. 

Then I wiped my eyes, drove to my friends house, and spent the evening being as present as possible.

And here’s where I really became proactive about my emotional state...

When I got home, I wrote down all the things I had to be grateful for. Below are a few from the list:

  • Kind neighbors to let me work from their house while my air conditioning was getting fixed. 
  • Those same neighbors who helped me jump my car with not one, but TWO different cars. 
  • Who then offered for me to just take their car! 
  • A generous girlfriend to make me dinner, feed me wine, and gab with for 5 hours about all that we’d missed in each other’s lives in the past 11 days. 
  • Having my air-conditioning and my internet both back up and running within 24 hours! 
  • The amazing weekend I’d just had celebrating my friend’s wedding and getting to meet her gorgeous growing family. 

The following day, I did it again.

Again, I wrote down everything I have to be grateful for. 

  • Landing an interview with one of the writers I admire most, Chris Guillebeau
  • Knowing that I made that interview possible because I chose to put myself out there and trust that good things would come from it! 
  • Getting to work from home and spend time with my dog. 
  • On and on. 

The goal is to stay in a state of appreciation, because when you’re in this state it’s hard to feel frustrated or disappointed. 

I’ve written about the power of a gratitude practice before, and chances are I will write about it again. 

I think the trick to really getting the most from your active appreciation is to remember to give yourself space ahead of time to let yourself feel things that might not be so enjoyable or positive. 

It’s OKAY to not feel good all the time. The tricky part that so many people don’t employ is the steps to get back to good once we’ve let ourself grieve or thrash a bit.

At the time of writing this, my father hasn’t spoken to me in 5 months. We all have our shit to deal with, and sometimes that shit is overwhelming and it’s painful. But the trick is to rely on the tools in your toolbox that allow you to get back up and continue being intentional about your life and your happiness. 

It doesn’t feel good to share personal information about my family with the public, but I know that by showing that I’m human too, and my happiness is also a choice I make-- despite my circumstances-- it will better empower you to make the same choice when shit hits the fan.

Remember:

  • It’s okay to let yourself experience negative emotions. 
  • When you feel the world beginning to “happen to you” instead of “happen for you” recognize that, honor your body’s reaction, then put a time limit on it. 
  • Give yourself a few moments to grieve and thrash and release the energy. 
  • Then practice gratitude as if your happiness depends on it. (Because it does).